One writer finds out the surprising reasons, and what those mean for all the single ladies…
“I’ve only gone out with a couple of girls at church, and I won’t do it anymore,” says Luke*, a 40-year-old Christian man living in Southern California. “At this point, I’m happily resigned to not ask a girl out at church ever again.”
This was one of the first statements I heard from the group of four Christian men I interviewed last week—and we’ll just call them Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. They all attend Bel Air Presbyterian Church, and range in age from 28 to 40 years old. In addition, they are all currently single, and their words formed a striking correlation with what I heard from the single, Christian men in New York City: They’re all interested in finding someone to spend their lives with, but not particularly keen on finding her at church.
As a single Christian woman, this isn’t exactly what I wanted to hear. I’ve been attending Christian churches for a substantial chunk of my life, and it stands to reason that I’ve often thought I might meet my future husband there. It would be easier than meeting him at a bar, or a gym, or my workplace, wouldn’t it? At least at church I can presume that the men I’m surrounded by share my faith, and that we have similar beliefs and values in common. However, as the years have passed by, the dates I’ve had with men at church have been rather few and far between. And I’m not the only woman who has found this to be true. Read more at YourTango.com